Fortunate is the man whose wife understands the true relationship between the emotions of love, s*x and romance.
Some people mistakenly emphasize the image of these three words. Listen to what Napoleon Hill has to say about these three words.
S*x, alone is a mighty urge to action, but it’s forces are like a cyclone, they are often uncontrollable. When the emotion of love begins to mix itself with the emotion of s*x, the result is the calmness of purpose, poise, the accuracy of judgment and balance.
Also, when you are driven by a desire to please a woman, based solely upon the emotion of s*x, a man may be and usually is, capable of great achievement, but his actions may be disorganized, distorted and totally destructive. When driven by the desire to please a woman, based upon the motive of s*x alone, a man may steal, cheat, and even commit murder. But when the emotion of love is mixed with the emotion of s*x, that same man will guide his actions with more sincerity, balance, and reason.
Love, romance and s*x are all emotions capable of driving men to heights of super achievement. Love is the emotion which serves as a safety valve and insures balance, poise and constructive effort. When combined, these three emotions may lift one to an altitude of a genius.
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The emotions are states of mind. Nature has provided man with a chemistry of the mind which operates in a manner similar to the principles of chemistry of matter. The emotions of s*x and jealousy, when mixed may turn a person into an insane beast. The presence of any destructive emotions in the human mind through the chemistry of the mindsets up a poison which may destroy one’s sense of justice and fairness.
The road to genius consists of the development, control and use of s*x, love and romance. Briefly, the process may be stated as follows.
Encourage the presence of these emotions as the dominating thoughts in one’s mind and discourage the presence of all the destructive emotions. Ignorance of this has cost thousands of people their privilege of happiness, even though they possessed riches.
Memories of love never pass. They linger, guide and influence long after the source of stimulation has faded. There is nothing new in this. Every person who has been moved by genuine love knows that it leaves traces upon the human heart. The effects of love endure because love is spiritual in nature. The man who can not be stimulated to great heights of achievement by love is hopeless, he is dead, though he may seem to live.
Go back into yesterdays, at times and bathe your mind in the beautiful memories of past love. It will soften the influence of the present worries and annoyances. It will give you a source of escape from the unpleasant realities of life, and maybe, who knows? Your mind will yield to you, during this temporary retreat into the World of fantasy, ideas or plans which may change the entire financial or spiritual status of your life.
If you believe yourself unfortunate, because you have loved and lost, perish the thought. One who has loved truly can never lose entirely. Love is whimsical and temperamental, it comes when it pleases and goes away without warning. Accept and enjoy it while it remains, but spend no time to worry about its departure. Worry will never bring it back.
Dismiss also, the thought that love never comes but once. Love may come and go, times without number, but there are no two love experiences which affect one in just the same way. But all love experiences are beneficial, except to the person who becomes resentful and cynical when love makes its departure.
There should be no disappointment over love, and there would be none if people understand the difference between the emotions of love and s*x. The major difference is that love is spiritual, while s*x is biological. No experience, which touches the human heart with a spiritual force, can possibly be harmful except through ignorance or jealousy.
Love is emotional with many sides, shades and colours. But the most intense and burning of all kinds of love is experienced in the blending of the emotions of love and s*x. Love, alone, will not bring happiness in marriage, nor will s*x alone. When these two beautiful emotions are blended, marriage may bring about a state of mind closest to the spiritual that one may ever know on this planet earth.
When the emotion of romance is added to those of love and s*x, the obstructions between the finite mind of man and infinite intelligence are removed.
Where love, romance and the proper understanding of the emotion and function of s*x abide. There is no disharmony between married people. If a woman permits her husband to lose interest in her and become more interested in other women, it is usually because of her ignorance or indifference towards the subjects of s*x, love and romance.
This statement presupposes, of course, that genuine love once existed between a man and his wife. The facts are equally applicable to a man who permits his wife’s interest in him to die. The real cause of the trouble will often be found to be indifference or ignorance on these subjects.
The woman who understands the man’s nature and tactfully caters to it need have no fear of competition from other women. Men may be giants with indomitable will power when dealing with other men, but they easily managed by the women of their choice. Ignorance of this has cost many people their privilege of happiness and even soiled many marriages.
Former President Richard Nixon described his depression following his resignation from the white house and his undergoing surgery. At one point when he was in the hospital, he told his wife, Pat, that he wanted to die. When he was at the absolute lowest point in his life, a nurse in the hospital came into his room, opened the drapes and pointed out a small plane that was flying back and forth overhead.
It was pulling this sign: GOD LOVES YOU AND SO DO WE. Ruth Graham, evangelist Billy Graham’s wife, had arranged for the plane to fly by the hospital. That’s when Nixon experienced a turning point. Seeing that expression of love gave him the courage and desire to keep going and recover.
Take time to express your love and appreciation for the people close to you. Tell them how much they mean to you. Write them notes telling how much you care. Give them pat on the back and, when appropriate, a hug. Don’t ever assume that people know how you feel about them. Tell them nobody can be told too often that he or she is loved.
- We can live without religion and meditation, but we cannot survive without human affection.
Remember, fortunate is the man whose wife understands the true relationship between the emotions of love, s*x and romance.
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