Some singles believe a full-time housewife is a woman who does not go to work but stays at home with the kids, that’s not a full-time housewife. A full-time housewife is a woman who contributes nothing whatsoever to the society and the world at large. She only has sex, cook and spends all her life with the kids, no more, no less.
You can be a housewife and not go to work, you have sex, cook, raise the kids yet make an impact around the world. That’s actually a Proverbs 31 woman.
Did I say you should not go to work? NO! Go to work if you and your husband agree to that but if not, better settle that in courtship before you get married.
The following set of people are not full-time housewives. People erroneously think they are. You can pick the one you want, discuss it with your fiance and reach an agreement before you marry.
- A BUSINESSWOMAN FROM HOME: In other to have time for the family, some women do business from home (Proverbs 31). They make their products at home and deliver to their customers especially when the kids are away at school and return before the kids get home.
This type of business is good because it affords you enough time to spend with the family yet make extra cash for yourself. Raising a family is very demanding. Now, as singles, you have all the 24 hours to waste but as a married person, you must maximize every second spent. This type of arrangement gives you the freedom of making money yet keep the family running.
- A MINISTRY WOMAN: She is not a full-time housewife because she is making an impact in her church and her society at large. Many women are called by the Lord to stop work and dedicate their lives to Him. She spends time with the family and when the kids are away at school, she spends the spare time doing the Lord’s work. Care must be taken not to abandon the family at the expense of God’s work. Some women also do this to their own peril.
- THE ONLINE BUSINESSWOMAN: Her business is online and this allows so much flexibility. Lots of genuine businesses are being done online; from information marketing to blogging to ebook publishing/marketing, business promo, transactions among several others. She has enough time for her husband and the kids yet have time to make some transaction online without moving around. All she needs is her laptop, tablet or phone and a functioning bank account.
- THE CAREER WOMAN: She uses her certificate to make money. She may be a banker, doctor, lawyer, accountant, nurse, teacher, a lecturer, journalist, auditor, etc. This one is actually demanding.
You leave for work very early, take the kids to school and return home after the kids have arrived or in the evening. The more demanding jobs like banking and medicine may require getting a house help who helps you run the home while you are away at work making money.
This type of arrangement is good if you are very spiritual. Have an understanding husband, a godly, deeply spiritual house help and children who are well behaved otherwise you need to tighten your belt and sit tight.
Raising godly kids in this very corrupt generation is time-consuming. Money is not enough to raise children, if it were enough, the children of some wealthy men won’t be cocaine addicts and cultists. Going to church is not enough or else some Pastors’ daughters won’t be prostitutes.
Your husband also needs care and attention. He needs your food and body and if they are not available, he may seek help from the house help, this is REALITY.
I will advise you to maximize your life as a single person. Work as much as you want, make all the money in the world but when you get married be flexible. There are some jobs you can’t take anymore.
You can’t be travelling around the world for months and years on end and expect your sexually starved husband to remain faithful forever or your neglected kids become godly overnight.
Get a flexible job. Get the one that allows you to spend time with the family. The family is important. After God, the family should rank next on your list of importance.
Courtship is for talking and ironing out issues. Sit your partner down and have a tete-a-tete on this issue. Ask questions, answer questions. This is very important.
THE FULL-TIME HOUSEWIFE:
She spends all her time in the home, kitchen and children. If your husband is rich and very busy like he travels a lot and pays you a monthly salary or personal allowance and you are very okay with it, why not?
Raising kids is very time consuming, house chores is not a child’s play but a time comes to the kids leave the home and you ask yourself who am I? What have I contributed to the world?
Running your vision, working in your passion, making an impact in the world apart from making money helps you feel good and have a sound, solid self-esteem.
There is more to life than having sex and raising kids. You are here on a purpose. Find out and work towards it’s attainment. You will not fail in your role as a wife and a mother in Jesus’ name.