“I Just Want Someone Who Will Love And Accept Me The Way I Am” By Aderanti Adebukola Adesewa
Recently, I discovered the popular expression “I just want someone who will love and accept me the way I am” is a big scam. I’m afraid when I hear it from people.
I’m not talking about someone loving you with your past mistakes, physical composition or something like that, I’m talking about you desiring someone who will love you with your current weaknesses.
Yes, people want to be loved. Everyone deserves to be loved. We are happy when we meet people that truly loves us but the fact is: NO ONE CAN CONTINUOUSLY LOVE AND ACCEPT US THE WAY WE ARE.
You need to understand that no one can CONTINUOUSLY love and accept you the way you are. Even God who loves and accepts us the way we are loves us too much that He does not leave us the way we are.
In my own view, wanting someone to love and continuously accept you and your weaknesses (the way you are) is an excuse not to take responsibility for your life.
For instance, as a woman you can’t cook, you are not romantic. You don’t know how to combine colours, your hair is always rough, you are not ready to improve and yet you are looking for a man that will love and accept you continue that way. THAT IS A SCAM!
Don’t you know you will continue to be a burden to a man who will continuously love and accept you?
To me, it sounds like a language from people who don’t want to take responsibility. They don’t want to embrace change or improve on their weaknesses.
I think what we should look for is people who will bring out the best in us.
Husband or wife who can bring out the best in you. Friends who know your weakness, love you but will not accept you to continue to live like that.
People who will motivate you to be better every day. People who will encourage you to be better than who you were yesterday. Moreover, people who want the best for you.
I think we should all learn to work on our weaknesses and be better. Work towards being a better friend, partner, wife, husband, mother, father, daughter, son, etc and stop waiting for someone who will continuously love and accept you the way you are.
Have a great weekend ahead. Be blessed.