A stable relationship is a relationship that is built upon loyalty, trust, safety and consistency. Being in a relationship isn’t easy, but healthy couples know how to take the ups and downs; how to weather the storm. Learn from this post, four ways to keep your relationship happy and healthy.
Healthy long-term relationships can have a powerfully positive influence on mental and emotional health. In this post, I will be discussing four reasons why it is hard for our generation to maintain a stable relationship.
1- Social media pressure
Social media is as addictive as taking drugs. When someone is in a relationship today, you know about it. Many people love to post things with or about their significant other on social media for the entire world to see. There are so many couples who have cripples their affairs via means of social media. It is easy to start up a conversation with a female crush on social media, or a work colleague.
Eventually, these conversations could end up leading to more things. It could be innocent at first, the more you talk, the closer you might become. This could then lead to flirting or confiding in someone else about serious problems besides your partner.
Maybe you even end up going out for coffee or lunch and still have the courage to upload it on your wall or status, and this could start to make your partner feel less and think you will end up cheating on them. Whether it’s emotionally, sexually or so, they start to misbehave towards you too.
2- Lack of Contentment
Contentment is a mental or emotional state of satisfaction drawn from being at ease in one’s situation, body and mind. Contentment means being satisfied with one’s possessions, status or situation. Though they might be insignificant. The work of relationships & contentment is to accept more of the infrastructure of reality.
Accepting reality means living with the other person’s dark side. Contentment requires lower expectations but once a partner is expecting you to buy what you can’t afford or to sacrifice what he or she knows it’s won’t give you joy could lead to a breakup. No matter how you try to adjust to your partner’s tone, the moment a partner lacks contentment in each other the relationship will start to fade away gradually.
3- Lack of understanding
The reason many couples struggle in a relationship is that they really don’t understand each other. If this goes on for a long time, what they will start to feel is fear or emotional pain. They feel alone and unsupported by each other.
4- Lack of Communication
Couples that don’t learn to consciously communicate will face issues when it comes to intimacy, conflict, and relational growth. Understanding your partner’s inner world and having them understand yours is pivotal to true connection. If you struggle to communicate in a way that evolves your relationship, then over time you will find that you grow apart.
Lack of communication in relationships can’t be ignored, especially in situations when you actively feel like you are too busy to communicate with your partner.
Take your relationship to a high level by taking notes of the points discussed in this post. To enjoy a stable relationship, it involves making sacrifice, understanding and burying of one’s ego.
ABOUT THE WRITER
Atanda Abeeb popularly known as Lakwize is a student of Crestfield College of Education. Lakwize is a brand manager for many NGOs and businesses. He is also an uprising video editor.