IT’S TIME TO LET GO (cont’d)
6. YOU DON’T LIKE HOW THEY LOOK:
Physical attraction is very important in marriage, please! My husband should tell me at least 3 times daily that I’m so beautiful to him. He should practically say I’m hot! And I tell him I like every part of his body from head to toe. Just looking at him gives me pleasure.
Marriage should not change your structure, you can only add more flesh, marriage won’t make him shorter, darker or lighter, he will be the same guy you have always known. Their physique won’t change in the next 20 years! If you hate how they look now, you will further hate it years after marriage. Lose them and let them go!
7. THEY ARE REFUSING TO INTRODUCE YOU TO THEIR FAMILY:
Either he is a married man or she is ashamed of you. If both of you are mature and ready for marriage, there is no reason why they should not introduce you to their family.
8. THEY ARE HOT TEMPERED!
And he is not doing anything about it. He goes completely berserk on provocation and even slaps you, she goes crazy and calls you all manner of derogatory names and you keep putting up with that trash because you are in lust with her, I pity your future! If you don’t want that man to batter you in marriage and the woman to pour hot water or acid on you, end the relationship!
9. YOU ARE SCARED OF THEIR FAMILY BACKGROUND:
Like they die prematurely, they don’t make it in life, they divorce few years after marriage or are barren in their family and you are so so scared you do not want it to rub off on you. You should be able to join faith with your partner and break that curse, if you can’t, end the relationship!
10. HE HAS NO JOB:
Nothing whatsoever and he wanna get married, sister, use your head and drive that guy to use his two hands, two legs and medulla oblongata to get at least a room apartment for you both, cooking pots, gas or stove, a bed, 2 chairs, study table and a hand fan if he can’t get a standing or ceiling fan. If he is hardworking and has a great vision for his future.
In 3 years, you should move to a higher level of comfort but if he is lazy and depends on you for everything, you better run! You are to work as well and assist him financially, he shouldn’t dump all the load on you, let him go!
11. THEY ARE TOO CLOSE TO THE OPPOSITE SEX:
In courtship, after God, you are number one. If he is still frolicking around ladies, hugging every Rose, Mary and Fatimat, chatting and calling strange ladies while claiming they are just “friends”, you are dealing with a flirt! End the relationship! If she uses a strange guy’s picture as her profile picture and has lots of questionable guys as her friends, she is double dating, end the relationship!
12. THEY ARE STINGY:
If you love, you will give with abandon. “For God so love that he gave…” if they are tight-fisted and stingy, they do not love you, end the relationship!
13. YOU HATE THEIR DRESSING:
Settle this once and for all in courtship. If you want her to wear makeup and trousers, let her know. If she adjusts, fine, if not, please, let her go in peace. You will always meet hot ladies in trousers after marriage and you will lust after them. If you want him to wear Jeans, tank tops, Jerseys and fitted clothes, drum it in his ears now or else you marry and resent your husband as you see guys parading you in Jerseys!
Lots of shit happen in marriage! I meet men who drool over my little makeup and the wife at home will stubbornly refuse to make up for her husband for whatever reason that suits her. Also, I had to stand on a friend’s neck to trim her eyebrow and wear makeup. I was tired of her husband chasing me around because I wore something he liked! She changed a little and relapsed! I had to permanently end the relationship. I was sick and tired of the man’s attention!
14. YOU HATE THEIR CHURCH
Especially as a lady, you must like his church because that is where you will be attending after the wedding. If you can’t adjust or adapt to his church’s doctrine, lose him and let him go!
15. YOU DO NOT AGREE SPIRITUALLY:
She believes in tithe, you hate tithing, he is a fasting freak, you hate fasting with passion! He loves evangelism, you prefer to cuddle in front of a romantic movie, this is a major disparity, end the relationship!
These and more are red flags! If your partner exhibits any or all of these, end the relationship. Don’t manage, there is no manage in marriage. Divorce courts are filled with people who wished they never married their partners! The pain of divorce is not what I wish upon my worst enemy. Do not leave God out of your decisions. Pray and let Him guide you. You will not mis-choose in Jesus’ name.